If you’re familiar with my site (or follow me on Twitter), you know I love Sex and the City. The show chronicles four friends living in New York City who experience the highs and lows of being single women. Charlotte York-Goldenblatt, is nothing short of a southern belle who isn’t from the south. She’s sort of prudish (but does have a fun side), conservative, but sweet as pie. She’s the ultimate hopeless romantic.
One thing about Charlotte is that she’s a die-hard believer in true love. In just about every episode, she remains optimistic about finding love and keeping it. What I love about Charlotte is that even when things fell apart with her “knight and shining armor” of a first husband, she didn’t swear off men forever, or decide all men were the same. Instead she lived life, remarried and got her fairytale ending. Of course the process was painful, and things weren’t perfect, but she eventually found happiness. Now that’s just a television show and things don’t always happen like that. However, in real life, we all have options. It usually comes down to this:
A) I’m going to convince myself something is either wrong with me or every guy (or girl) in the universe so I will be depressed and cynical
B) I will choose happiness, stay positive, and shut the f-ck up about being bitter
Now, let’s be clear….it’s HARD to be positive when you’ve been disappointed. It’s not easy at all. But, we all have to decide if we’re going to stay disappointed, sad, and negative, OR look at life as full of lessons that you’ll soon look back on and appreciate. Halfway through my 20s, I’m learning to appreciate everything that happens, the good and not-so-good. Things happen…..maybe they weren’t planned, but they happened. And when those not-so-good things happen, you mourn them and make peace with the outcome. I have a lot more to learn in this life, but one thing I do know is that happiness comes from within. No person, thing, or situation can sustain your happiness forever. But most importantly, it’s a choice. It’s ok to demand happiness. As Charlotte once said, “I’m sweet, romantic and traditional. I’m a bit prissy and naive, and I won’t settle for less than a picture perfect life.”