Celebrities and Their Silly Twitter Antics (Part 1)

Last month, we saw some extra special behavior from favorite (or not-so-favorite) celebrities on Twitter. Of course celebrities screaming for attention on a social media isn’t new, but April was pretty interesting.

Nicki Minaj is no stranger to The Brown Girl Notebooks. Last month, Onika caused another stir when she decided to be done with Twitter. It lasted for about 9 days. She was allegedly upset with some of her Barbz from an official fan site that allegedly leaked music from her latest album before the release date. She had a mini rant, then deactivated her account leaving her 11 million+ followers behind.

 

Twitter allows you to deactivate your account for up to 30 days then after that will be permanently deleted. Obviously Nicki wouldn’t be gone for too long since she’s an active celebrity tweeter who frequently engages with her fans through the social media site. She responded to the deletion and claims she just needed “a moment to herself” after reading some negative things on the web. Of course her follower count took a huge dip, but reclaimed her spot as she regained her 11 million followers back.

Deion Sanders thought it was a good idea to live tweet an altercation with his wife. Yes, that happened:

He also tweeted a picture of him and his two young sons filling out police reports. I opted not to include that because it was a dumb thing for him to publish in the first place. Sanders and his wife Pilar have been going through a very public divorce battle and this is not the first time their business was on Twitter. Deion’s older daughter Deiondra went on Twitter and basically trash talked Pilar accusing her of cheating and being a horrible wife. However this time it was Deion who took to Twitter to let everyone know Pilar and her friend “jumped” him in front of their children and actually sent a twitpic of him and his two young sons filling out a police report. Real classy.

*Sings* “Let me show you how your–”  Oh wait. This is a PG-13 blog.

When Brian McKnight comes to mind, what do you think of? One Last Cry. Back At One. Anytime. Never Felt This Way. Still In Love. I could on and on with songs by this dude. He’s one my father’s favorite artists so I grew up listening to a lot of his music. A LOT. I just happened to be up really late talking to my sister the other night when she mentioned Brian McKnight was trending high on Twitter. Of course in my over dramatic style, I’m thinking he died or something.

Well. That certainly wasn’t it. He was far from it actually.

McKnight’s latest song, “Let Me Show You How Your P—y Works” made its debut to a rowdy crowd on Twitter that resulted in an uproar over the singer’s choice of lyrical content. Some people were upset he would sing such a thing while others applauded him for being so open and having fun with his music. He explains that the song was just for “his 40,000 followers”. Really Brian? You didn’t think it would go beyond your followers? Right. Peep his tweets:

He just released a video for the song on FunnyOrDie.com and I must say it gave me a funny, but uncomfortable and slightly weird vibe. It’s obviously not to be taken seriously. So I guess, good luck Mr. McKnight with your spoof R&B songs?

Royce Reed may not be considered a “real celebrity” but she’s on the cast of one of the most watched reality television shows. Royce Reed got into it with her 12 year-old boyfriend’s baby mama last week over some alleged private (I use that term loosely) text messages.

There were plenty more tweets back and forth between these two ladies and it didn’t end pretty. Royce’s prepubescent boo admitted to the raunchy texts to his baby mama and made Royce look like a dern fool since she had his back the whole time. Such a shame. Royce should’ve never engaged in a verbal situation over Twitter with a baby mama of a boyfriend who still can’t get a car rental without a fee due to his age. That’s a no-no.

Already in the first week of May, A couple of the Braxton sisters (you know which sister startedit.com), Jill Scott, and Mary Mary (they never officially responded), became mixed up in some corny Twitter shade. I’m convinced Twitter just isn’t for a lot of celebrities.

-Val

 

 

My Adventurous Night: PJ Morton Comes To Philly!

I’m a huge fan of PJ Morton. He came to Philly last night and this is what happened. This is my first time using iMovie, so don’t hate me for my editing skills. Be nice. It does get a little “ranty” so beware. Enjoy.

Up Close And Personal With Estelle

I had the pleasure of sitting in on the soundcheck of rapper and singer-songwriter Estelle just a few short hours before her March 5th show in Philadelphia. She was so kind and gracious as she shared words of wisdom with the high school, undergrad, and graduate students of the Grammy U Philadelphia Chapter for the Recording Academy. We were able to ask her questions and she answered each one with a lengthy, full answer never giving fluff. She was honest, humorous, and quickly let you know how she really felt. Here are some tidbits of her stories, advice, and opinions.

(Photo: Caporilli)

On First Walking Up to Kanye West And Going After Her Dreams of Being an Artist

We met in 2003. You have to be as obnoxious as Kanye. Kanye’s obnoxious in a good way. Don’t let fear run you away from your destiny. Just do it. Go for it.

 

What It Takes To Be Successful 

90 percent work and 10 percent music. No sleep. This is what I live for.

 

Knowing Your Identity In The Industry

Be 100 percent about who you are.

 

Most Memorable Moment So Far

She told a story about going to perform in Kansas City, a place she’d never been before. She made a joke about being in the middle of nowhere and wondering where the people were in such a rural town. She went and performed to the packed out venue where the entire crowd knew her songs word for word. Even the songs that weren’t played on the radio and ones she’d never performed publicly before. You could tell she was even still in disbelief of the story as she was sharing. She was also incredibly humbled by it.

 

Her Musical Inspirations 

Mary J. Blige is one of her biggest inspirations and the person she really wants to work with in the future.  She also named Ella Fitzgerald as an inspiration whom she called

“frigid ridiculous”.

 

Working With People On Her Team

I can’t do mean people and they have to do their job.

 

Music in The U.K. Versus Music in The U.S.

The music is no different, if it’s wack it’s wack. I don’t look at music as commercial and indie, it’s all music to me.

 

On Staying Grounded In Who She Is

 I refuse to do certain things if it’s not who I am.

 

Realizing What You Want To Do In Life

When you realize what you wanna do, things become calm. Sales are cool, it’s fine, they’re gonna be there. But this is what I’m gonna do. When you realize what you’re here for, nothing else matters.

 

Estelle’s third album All Of Me is now in stores and online to download from iTunes and Amazon.

 

-Val

 

 

 

 

Music Monday: “Following My First Mind” EP by PJ Morton

Haven’t done a Music Monday post in months so of course I had to dust it off for one of my favorite artists, PJ Morton, who is releasing his new EP Following My First Mind.

I’ve been following PJ Morton since 2006 when I found his music on iTunes. I was a bit frustrated with radio (still am at times) with what was being played or not being played, so I decided I would dedicate some time to finding independent artists who relied on word-of-mouth or the internet on getting their music heard. During this time MySpace was pretty big and popular, used by everyone and used by a whole lot of artists, independent and mainstream. I stumbled around on iTunes and this album entitled Freeversation shows up with this group called Freestyle Nation. I clicked on a few songs and I was highly impressed and wondered why I had never heard of them. I clicked on another suggested album called Emotions with this guy on the cover who strangely looked like one of the four guys on the over from the previous album Freeversation I was just listening to. That guy was PJ Morton, one fourth of Freestyle Nation and a solo artist in his own right.

(My signed Emotions:Special Edition CD booklet from the first Philly show in 2008)

I’ve been hooked since then. I looked him up on MySpace and pretty much checked his page every day for either new music or concert dates. His shows were literally everywhere except in my city. New York, Atlanta, Los Angeles, and everywhere else except here in Philadelphia. I still followed him through MySpace and purchased and download anything he was apart of musically. His music was addictive and I just wanted to experience every song, note, and lyric of his.

Then, it finally happened.

(PJ performing in Philly. Hacked into my MySpace account for these photos!)

One spring day in 2008, I was doing my regular daily MySpace check and there it was. PJ Morton’s name with a Philadelphia date. My sister was there and I’m pretty sure she thought I was going to cry. You would have thought I won the lottery. It was as if my unspoken pleas while listening to his music were heard from the concert and booking gods. I was finally going to see PJ Morton perform live in my city! It was so exciting.

(Pretty sure I just said, “hi”. That was it.)

It’s been 6 years since I’ve discovered this true musical gem and I’ve been an avid supporter ever since. I’ve followed him in social networks from MySpace to Twitter and Facebook, downloaded every album and every song, bought his book, and remembered the day he officially announced his signing with YMCMB.

(Me, Esha, Brian Cockerman (PJ’s bassist), and PJ at his second Philly show, 2009)

In less than one hour, PJ Morton will release some more great music with his first EP as a signed YMCMB artist, Following My First Mind. It has seven tracks and it features Lil’ Wayne, Jazmine Sullivan, Adam Levine, and Chantae Cann. I’m so excited and I hope you’ll check out his music as well as downloading his latest EP.

You can download Following My First Mind from his website, www.pjmortononline.com.

-Val

Non-Profits, White Saviors, and Social Media: Were We Duped By KONY 2012?

Tuesday night, the web was on fire with a 30-minute video of a seemingly innocent campaign and movement to hold a terrible man named Joseph Kony accountable for his actions. The video was tweeted into my timeline and then retweeted repeatedly while Twitter’s world wide trending topics were quickly changing to support the now viral video. KONY 2012 literally went viral within hours and continued into the morning. I even wrote a short blurb right here on my personal blog to spread the word about this movement and added the video to inform others about this spectacular revolution happening. The video was quite heartbreaking and convincing enough for me and others to begin posting statues and sharing the video through our social networks. Hundreds of people were making response videos raising awareness and gave personal reactions to the video. I found the Facebook fan page of the organization behind the video, Invisible Children, and immediately clicked ‘liked’ and was amazed at their numbers. There were more than 720,000 likes then, and not even a full 48 hours later, today it has over 2 million Facebook fans. The social media aspect of this organization is probably one of the most successful I’ve ever seen in a short period of time.

Then, something happened. Things got a bit complicated.

Information about the organization Invisible Children now had the spotlight on them for alleged shady practices. Maybe even unintentional alleged shady practices. Some have said their approach is a bit “Hollywood” and is condemned for being more of a money-making operation for films and merchandise rather than funding the actual cause. A reported 32% of the money goes directly to the cause while the rest is for travel, salaries of the founders, and producing films. While I’m not an expert on non-profits or an accountant, this organization has said they are indeed a legit non-profit. At least, their tax information says so. But, their finances are also in question too.The tax returns of Invisible Children show the founders’ salaries as well as their expenditures. Here are the financial statements and tax information for Invisible Children so you can make your conclusion.

Photo by Jane Rahman (Co-founder Jason Russell and actress Kristen Bell)

Wednesday, articles and Twitter were bombarded with the opinions of everyone. A lot of people wanted to add their two cents about whether this organization was helping or hurting its supposed cause. Many criticized the facts stated in the video, especially the numbers. Jason Russell, co-founder, narrator of the short film, and face of the movement, said Joseph Kony was responsible for recruiting tens of thousands of children in Uganda and has an army of 30,000. That fact has been disputed, including if Joseph Kony was even in Uganda anymore. There’s even a Tumblr called Visible Children created by student Grant Oyston on why the organization may not be beneficial to its intended cause.

According to their website, Invisible Children started nine years ago by three young filmmakers looking to make a difference in Africa. They have been visiting colleges and speaking to the public for a while now and has even been featured on Oprah twice. So what’s different now?  For some, the timing is suspicious because of the upcoming election and the video does put President Obama in a positive light. I’m in no way saying this is an election conspiracy and liberal ploy from the democrats, I’m just observing how others may perceive the film. In no way am I arguing that the intentions of Jason Russell and his friends weren’t pure or that they had ulterior motives, but the idea of young white men going to somehow “save Africa” leaves a bad taste in many people’s mouths. The “white savior complex” is something I had never heard of until I went to college. It was a concept introduced to me in the form of films where the formula goes, you have an indigenous people who are underserved, treated unfairly, and have no access to resources essentially needing help from a white person or a group of white people. In return, the white people or person who makes it all better becomes a hero or savior. Or at least, that’s the message. The highly popular and controversial film The Help was labeled a white savior film because of its storyline of African American women collaborating with a young white writer to expose the unfair working conditions in 1960s Mississippi. It was evident of the split in support for the film from African Americans who couldn’t help but notice the underlying white savior themes. There are plenty of films that follow this formula such as The Blind Side, Dangerous Minds, The Air Up There, and Freedom Writers. The idea that in schools, sports, and in every day life, minorities need a white person to come and help or save them is something Hollywood never gets tired of showing. Over and over and over again. The KONY 2012 video has also been criticized for featuring so much of Jason Russell and his young son and explicitly telling a former child LRA (Kony’s The Lord Resistance Army) soldier named Jacob that “we are going to stop them” *cues Superman theme music*. Am I saying Jason Russell and his friends purposely set out to be labeled “white saviors”? No. At least I don’t think they woke up one day and said, “Let’s go and save African children because we’re white, privileged, and bored!” I am saying how this movement and so many others can be perceived as such because of the historical background and connection to colonialism.

So will I be supporting the KONY 2012 movement? The jury is still out on that and will probably be for a while. I’m still trying to wrap my head around all of the information. Of course we want to feel like we’re helping a worthy cause with either financial support or using your platform to raise awareness. Especially as Americans we can sometimes have a sense of guilt when we see a commercial or we’re informed of horrific stories of something like children soldiers. We want to help because it’ll make us feel better. But with so many disputing reports of the integrity of a huge organization, what do you do then? I believe in being hopeful and seeing the positive so I think we should at least appreciate the knowledge and lesson gained from this. Knowledge about foreign affairs, but also the lesson doing some background checking on a non-profit organization and not jumping on the bandwagon. Whether organizations like Invisible Children are actually helping, we would have to look at the bigger picture. What is the bigger picture? Well, it depends on who you’re talking to. I feel like in this case people have been informed not just about Joseph Kony and Invisible Children, but that things are happening around the world outside our lives. One of my favorite bloggers, Luvvie Ajayi, pointed out in her blog post, No Country For Social Justice Hipsters, she says,

We read TMZ more than BBC so oftentimes, we don’t know what’s going on elsewhere until it’s brought to our attention like this. But ignorance to problems doesn’t mean lack of empathy, and the assumption is insulting. It matters that we care. And we care RIGHT NOW.

For those who weren’t aware of who Joseph Kony was or had no idea what LRA (Kony’s The Lord Resistance Army) is, you know now. Whether you believe Invisible Children’s efforts are good or bad, you know what’s been happening. So now for us newly informed people, instead of debating the reputation of this organization, you can find alternatives to support.

Here are two non-profits that you may want to look into:

Africare, Buliding Lives and Building Future – This organization focuses on providing water, food, health resources, and emergency response

Financial Information

AMREF, African Medical Research Foundation – This organization provides healthcare resources, especially pregnant women

Financial Information

Charity Navigator is a great resource for looking into the bigger non-profits and seeing where there funding actually goes.

Also, here are some articles to do some further investigation of your own.

That Needs To Go Tumblr  - KONY 2012: Causing More Harm Than Good

The Guardian  - KONY 2012 What’s The Real Story?

Washington Post  - Invisible Children Responds to Criticism About STOP KONY Campaign

The Christian Science Monitor - Joseph Kony 2012: It’s Fine to Stop Kony and the LRA. But Learn To Respect Africans

PMC Magazine - An Introduction to Jason Russell (Interview)

Happy Reading!

Val

KONY 2012

I usually don’t do posts at 2am, but I was inspired to inform you guys about a movement happening right under our noses.

Do you know Joseph Kony? Ever heard that name? Me neither. Not until just 30 minutes ago when I watched a video floating through my Twitter timeline.

The video (which was extremely well put together) explained who Joseph Kony was and what he does.

So what does Joseph Kony do?

He kidnaps children in Uganda from their homes, makes the girls sex slaves, makes the boys children soldiers, and forces them to kill and mutilate the faces of innocent people.

He’s been doing this for 26 years.

Why hasn’t the United States interfered like they have in the past in other countries? Because they have no interests there.

Jason Russell has decided to do something it. I’m glad he did. I had no idea this was even going in and appreciative and inspired by his enormous efforts that’s clearly changing the social awareness game. Please take some time and watch the video, go to the website, and pledge. If you choose to not watch the video in whole or pledge, just ask a friend or family member, “Do you know Joseph Kony?”

 

Whitney

I went back and forth with myself about writing this. I wrote several unfinished drafts about my love for her music, her unmatched vocal abilities, and the great loss to a quickly decaying music industry. I wanted readers to truly understand through my words how I felt about the unexpected death of the greatest voice of our time.

Then I realized. There are none.

All I can say is, I have so many dear memories associated with Whitney Elizabeth Houston. She influenced a whole generation of singers (including my favorite singer) and continues to do so posthumously. I almost felt silly and idiotic crying when they carried her casket out while “I Will Always Love You” played in the background while her mother and hurting 18-year old daughter followed behind.

I certainly do not deny my sincere feelings towards the passing of the legendary singer. I was and still am deeply saddened. My hope is that her family, especially her daughter, remember their sister, daughter, mom, aunt, cousin, and Nippy as the special person she was.

Ms. Houston, your gift will be forever remembered and we indeed will always love you.

(Photo: Asterio Tecson)

 

-Val

My Thoughts On Nicki Minaj and Her “Blasphemous” Performance

I’d say I’m a pretty open person. I’m not rigid nor am I too close minded to dismiss the unfamiliar. Those who are scared to embrace other ideas or too defiant to hear other views and opinions worry me. Keep that in mind as you’re reading. On that note, I shall commence.

The 54th  Annual Grammy Awards were pretty blah for me altogether with a couple highs and many, many flat moments. That’s another post in itself so we’ll just move on.

Rapper, singer, and question mark, Nicki Minaj performed her newest single “Roman Holiday” last night with a performance entitled, “The Exorcism of Roman”, and single-handedly confused the sh*t out of everyone. Of course no award show is right without Twitter, so I sat and watched my timeline blow up with bewilderment, dislike, and the blood of Christ. I was locked up in Twitter jail so I couldn’t join in the commentary as she was performing.

(Photo: tamtam7683)

First, I absolutely loved the set for her performance. The whole church scene (as blasphemous as it may have been, lol) was grand. That stained glass? Dope. The confessional she opened the performance up in? Dope also. A lot of work and hours went into building such an intricate set so kudos to those production and behind the scenes folks. For her to have a video accompany the performance making it a combination of live and taped entertainment is pretty huge for any artist. You may not like her or understand her, but don’t even think for a second any artist could have done that. She’s not only respected within the industry,  but also has the command to do such a huge performance whether you like it or not. (Shout out to @Zarinah who pointed that out while tweeting.) One of my favorite Twitter peeps I believe said it best.

“So Nicki didn’t bother u when she was speaking every profane, overtly sexual misogynistic thing out there, but that performance was too far? Oh it was because THAT involved religion. If NOW you’re gonna stop your kids from listening to Nicki Minaj, that just doesn’t make sense to me. Her work has always offensive. Just saying. “ -@MiddleNameRay

I thought it was quite funny and odd how people were acting all surprised and tweeted in disbelief of Nicki’s performance. I mean, are we really surprised? Doesn’t she try to GaGa her way to the top anyway? I was more concerned about the lyrical content and her voice. Both were subpar for me. What I didn’t understand was why the masses were now all of sudden “done” with her because of the performance. Oh. I get it. Because she integrated Jesus. Oh. Now y’all throwing holy water, the blood of Christ, and a few dozen Hail Mary’s. Got it.

That pretty much sums up how I feel.

But let’s not forget, she’s had two promotional singles for her upcoming album that didn’t catch on.  Her first single from her second album, “Roman in Moscow” debuted at 64 on the Billboard charts. Her second single, “Stupid Hoe”, has not been received well either. After three weeks on the charts it’s dipped from 59 to 69. While I don’t think good charting automatically equals good music, Nicki’s place in Young Money has a lot to do with her ability to sell records to the masses. This performance was Nicki adding some much needed shock value for her Barbs and Ken Barbs to get excited about her album. Plain and simple. While she’s over the top anyway, pushing this single with a grandiose, brazen performance during the biggest night in music is actually smart. Don’t get it twisted, Ms. Minaj may not be one of your favorites, but she knows exactly what she’s doing. Didn’t you tweet about her? You added to her trending on Twitter. Weren’t you also going back and forth with people about how “wack” and “talentless” she is? Aren’t I writing this blog? We keep her relevant. That’s the point.

So am I #TeamMinaj? No. Would I buy an album of hers? Probably not. More than likely, I’ll keep writing about artists including those you hate or “don’t get” while you tweet about them.

It just so happens the tweets mentioned are from two hardworking and talented musicians. Mere coincidence. Check out their music.

Ray Curenton’s new single “Come In” on Bandcamp

Zarinah’s mixtape “Dope Becomes Her” on Bandcamp

-Val

The Ex-Files: How To Maintain Your Dignity After Being Dumped

 

We’ve all been there. You meet someone and hit it off instantly. Dates become regular and phone conversations last longer and longer. You fall in love and meet each other’s families. You secretly think about what it would be like to have “mini-you” and “mini-he” running around. Things are great. Then the unexpected happens.
You get dumped.

Now you’re depressed. You drink more liquor than usual. You do something drastic like rockin’ a baldy like Brittney post-breakdown. Things are looking very gloomy.

Days, weeks, months, go by and you’re finally becoming your old self again.

Now what?

Of course the story above was pretty sad and extreme but the point is, you have an ex now. Are you supposed to be friends with the person who dumped you? Are you supposed to still hang out with them even though the break-up wasn’t your idea? Do you ignore them? Do you trip them and laugh when you see them?

Do what makes you comfortable.
You don’t have to be friends with the ex. There’s nothing written in stone saying you absolutely must befriend an ex. You can do whatever you want to do. Be besties or not. Be cordial or act like the other doesn’t exist. Some can handle being friends with their ex. Others cannot. Some just don’t care. Don’t let people around you tell you what you should do. We’re all different. It’s more mature to admit you’d rather steer clear of your ex than to do the opposite to make everyone else comfortable. Just don’t be crazy. Which brings me to my next point….

Don’t be crazy.
Don’t act like you’re 100% okay and you’re not. It’s alright to still be hurt, sad, confused, whatever. Nobody can tell you how to feel and when you should “get over it”.  Just don’t give all your friends and loved ones the “I’m okay!” with a side of kool-aid smile, but you’re disintegrating inside. I say all because there has to be at least one or two people you can be totally honest with. You can’t fake the funk with everybody. That will indeed make you crazy. You’re doing more damage denying your true feelings and not dealing with your emotions. Don’t be that person.


Don’t turn into a stalker.

Nowadays you have access to people through social networking sites like Facebook and Twitter. It’s not even necessary to leave your house to find out where people are. You can see where they’re going, what they’re  eating (pause), and watching on TV right on your computer screen. It’s practically easy to be a stalker. I would suggest disconnecting yourself from your ex on social networks. Don’t visit their profiles or get others to see what they’re updating either. Don’t comment on everything they post or text them about something they posted. You run the risk of becoming an undercover cyber stalker. That’s weird.

Don’t be an angry status updater.

Okay, so you were dumped. It can hurt like hell. I know. But try not to include all of your Facebook friends or Twitter followers in your pain. They don’t care. Really, they don’t. Statuses like this every 20 minutes:

“Listening to Cee Lo. F**********ck you!! Yes you!!”

No. Those indirect statuses or “subtweets” aren’t doing anything but making you look bitter and unstable. If you feel like you’re going to update a status with something ridiculous, just think twice. Put your phone or computer down and go eat a cookie.

Live your damn life.
Go out. Spend time with your friends and/or family. Try to have fun. I’m one of those people that if I sit idle doing nothing during a difficult time, my mind often wanders to negativity. I become sad and emotional. To avoid stuff like that, go and do something with yourself. Get a hobby, learn a language, start a blog (like I did), do something you’ve been thinking about doing and have fun with it.

Breaking up is hard. Being dumped can be even harder. But you can keep your dignity and handle yourself accordingly. It’s possible.

-Valerye

Why I Don’t Care About The Super Bowl

Val and sports don’t go together. I don’t dislike sports. I just don’t like them either. I have nothing against sports. I just don’t care about them. I’m not one of those girls who pretend to like football or basketball to appease a guy either. I won’t fake like I know what a two-point conversion is or who the power forward is for the Lakers either. (Is power forward even a position in basketball? I thought I heard it used before.) I did try to follow basketball in high school and was actually pretty good at it. If “following basketball” meant knowing names, watching games, and memorizing the win-loss records of teams, then I was good. Honestly, the only reason I knew records was because of the newspaper, the Metro, who used to publish NBA records every day. Since I read the Metro every day, I read NBA stats too. Every day.

The only sports news I keep up with are the headlines you can’t escape. You know like, “Brett Favre Comes Back to NFL on 70th Birthday” or “NBA Lockout Going on 5 Years”, stuff  like that. If you were to ask me who plays for the Sixers I’d probably guess, Raja Bell or Larry Hughes or someone like that. Yes, I know, they’re retired. Or are they? Who knows. I surely don’t.

-Val